I couldn’t come out to my wife – so I let fate do it for me

There was no sense of judgment or interrogation, just pure love (Picture: Jess Clodfelter)

As my partner, Emily, and I were putting away laundry one Sunday, she paused and turned to me with a sweet smile on her face.

‘I’ve been looking at the updates to your new website; I noticed it said you’re non-binary. Is that how you identify?’

There was no sense of judgment or interrogation, just pure love. 

A month or two earlier, I’d updated my professional website with ‘she/they’ – essentially coming out with my new pronouns and gender identity. 

I looked at...